Is this normal? I do not love my husband. He is a deadbeat. He doesn’t work and sits on unemployment. He makes 0 a month there, which forces us to live with my mother and split rent costs. He refuses to look for work because it will take away his free time with us, or playing internet video games. I am the only one working from my computer I sell clothing online but it isn’t enough to pay bills, and rent, etc… especially when he isn’t helping me.
We have a 6 month old and a 3 yr old. He doesn’t play with the children. I go from child to child nursing them. He doesn’t clean the house. He might pick up something once in awhile but laundry, dishes, actual cleaning forget it. He is also enrolled in college getting financial aid. He doesn’t take it seriously. I end up doing 75% of his work. He couldn’t even pass an exam which he was allowed 2 pages of notes for on his own. The test was vital because it means he could get his A/A and GED. It was his only chance in life for something decent but he couldn’t get off of the internet. He blames me or the kids for not passing it, but he has 2 level 80 warcraft characters. Its not us its his lack of devotion to his outside responsibilities. That also brings up sex, which we do not have. He is too busy on his internet to ever pay attention to our relationship. I don’t want him to touch me anyways I detest him.
He has a history of being abusive and violent. When he doesn’t get his way he is impossible to deal with and can turn very ugly. I hate him. I don’t love him because he is a deadbeat and I have no respect for him. I am thinking of tuning up my online business more, and getting him out. He only makes 0 a month, so financially replacing him won’t be difficult. Would I get child support even if he is only having unemployment as an income source?
To top all this off after my daughters birth I was having serious heart issues, and he is just a train wreck. My disabled mother watches and helps with my children more than he ever does.
Are these emotions justified?